# 1
Following You Around (Everywhere)
You hear the th-thud-thud of four paws hitting the floor when you stand up from the couch. You nearly take a tumble while carrying a large pot of water over to the sink because someone is underfoot. Or maybe you haven’t used the bathroom alone in years. All of these are signs that you are lucky enough to have a cat that doesn’t want to leave your side. This one is pretty clear-cut, but if your buddy is always following you around, you can bet that your cat loves you a whole bunch. Consider bringing him to your work, school, or other social functions—a built in conversation piece and amazing lifestyle choice all in one!
# 2
Belly Up
# 2A cat’s stomach is his most vulnerable spot. By showing you his belly, your cat is revealing that he is comfortable enough with you to be unguarded and at his most vulnerable. And if your cat rolls on his back and allows you to rub his tummy? You’ve hit the big time! This is the ultimate sign of trust. WARNING: A tummy rub can turn violent on a moment’s notice. You may have to live with some light scarring. Cats are capricious.
#3
They Leave You “Gifts” (Also Known As Bringing You Dead Things)
Though these gifts might be of dubious distinction (or, yes, downright disgusting), do not chastise your cat for leaving you an offering. It is a sign of his esteem for you. When your cat drags the lifeless carcass of a small animal to your bedside, it can be difficult to take it as the compliment that it is, but it unequivocally means she is totally into you. Bringing you the “treat” of a dead mouse, dead bird, or, if you are luckier, the toy version of same, is sign that your cat thinks of you as family and wants to provide for you. Like all gifts, it’s the thought that counts; accept it graciously (once you’ve finished dry-heaving).
# 4
Head Butts and Cheek Rubs
# 4When you see your cat coming at you with her head cocked, brace yourself, you’re in store for a good head butt! Head butts are like a hug from your cat and are one way she tries to mix your scents together to cement your bond. Closely related to head butts are cheek rubs. If your cat is milling around your legs, try holding your hand (with a closed fist) near her head to see if she rubs her cheeks on your knuckles.
Both head butts and cheek rubs are self-guided pets that mean your cat is marking you as her own. Receive these with pride.
# 5
Visiting You for Nighttime Cuddles
Your best feline friend can be a secretive creature and will often not want to show his affections for his human to anyone—including you. As a result, your best cuddle session may just happen when you are fast asleep. You may be drooling and your hair might be a real mess, but your cat is using this time to express his love on his own terms. Just because you aren’t awake to share in it, doesn’t diminish its significance. Your cat coming to you in the night and sitting on your chest, face, or side is a sure-fire sign that she loves you.
# 6
Offering a Slow Blink
Cats do a lot of talking with their eyes and one very special way they say “I love you” is through the slow blink. When a cat is happy and content with you, she may just look over and slowly close and reopen her eyes. In this they are saying, “Hey friend, I love you, and I feel comfortable enough around you to let my guard down.” This is basically a marriage proposal from a cat and the best response is a reciprocated slow blink accompanied by the warm feeling in your heart from the certainty that your cat loves you. (Helpful tip: The slow blink is also a great way to introduce yourself in a non-threatening way to a new cat to show that you mean no harm.)
# 7
Kneading or “Making Biscuits”
There are competing theories about why exactly cats knead. One theory holds that adult cats forever associate kneading with the comfort of nursing (kittens knead to stimulate their mother’s milk production), so when a cat kneads near her human, it shows she is relaxed and comfortable with her family. If that’s not love, what is? And when that kneading happens on your lap and is accompanied by purring and an intense, searching gaze, you know you have one content cat on your hands!
# 8
The Tail Has It
Cats often greet people they like with a question-mark-shaped tail. Pay attention to your cat’s tail to judge how happy she is to see you. (For more on reading feline body language, check out moderncat.com/felinebodylanguage).
# 9
Hanging Out In Your Space
Cats will show animosity or discomfort, particularly with strangers, by simply vacating the premises. Your cat may not be overly affectionate, but if she’s always in the same room you’re in—even if she seems to not be paying you any attention—then she values your company. Simply put, not all cats are lap cats; this is frequently misunderstood as aloofness or indifference, but sometimes proximity is all a cat needs to be happy with you. We call these special guys Nearby Cats. Your Nearby Cat is just out of reach on the couch, at the foot of your bed, or in an adjacent chair in the living room. This reserved fellow loves you just as much as those showy lap cats. Trust us.
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My Tilly has to sleep with me everynight, she cuddles next to me.😻😻
Bad idea to bring your cat to work or otherwise expose your cat to unfamiliar people/places.
So happy to read this !
My ragamuffin Noah, is NOT
a cuddly lap cat , but he is always in the same room, runs to greet me at the door, and always plops down for a belly rub! He loves me after all❤️😻❤️😻❤️😻
My cat, Mr Bear, hunts at night and I often get up to find a dead giant beetle on the floor. (This is Florida and we have lots of odd insects.) I am grateful to him for this but yes, it is kinda gross. He is one of the most loving, affectionate cats I have ever known. I KNOW he trusts me and I KNOW he cares about me….that constant purr tells me so and his gentle behavior. He likes being brushed (and he is an Olympic class shedder-) and he loves being stroked. He is one seriously beautiful cat and I am so glad he chose me.
It would definitely be dangerous to take any cats to work where I work. The board of health would shut us down in less than a heart beat.
This is Luna, she does all of this with me, she always follows me around, comes for night time cuddles, lots of head butt’s and slow blinking.
my kittys best loving and snuggle time is in the morning after we get up she makes her rounds
My 5 all do all of them and I am honoured that they do I adore them
Making biscuits: when my Simba does that on my solar plexus with all of his 6.9 kilos I have always interpreted his intense, searching gaze as “Give me treats”. If I do so, he’ s away as soon as they’re polished off. If I don’t, he’ll continue for a long time. Meanwhile, the other two vultures, I mean ladies, named Mismet & Isis are milling about around us….
My Simba (6.9 kilograms) usually kneads with all his bodyweight right on my solar plexus. I usually interpret this, together with his loud purring and intense, searching gaze as “I will not stop until you give me my treat, which is my Godgiven right, you stupid human!”. Meanwhile the other two vultures/cats, Mismet and Isis is purring and milling around us where there is some spare room to mill, waiting for their share… Unfortunately for Simba, I will not give him his treats everytime. He kinda weighs enough already, but he usually quits after half an hour or so…
But more often than not he gets what he wants… and when there is no more treats he’s off. I have to admit that I sometimes relents and give out the treats just because he’s so darned heavy treading on my belly.
Am I a bad person because of this?
Read all 9 of these “Signs of cat love” and I have to say that my 2 baby cats, Milo age 9 and Bella age 5 does all 9 of these…..so I assume they love me very much and definitely has full trust in me…..and they even come running when I call their names, and they are strictly indoor baby cats.
Love this. My cat does most of these, and know she loves me. There is another important sign which is when they lick your head…preen your hair. That has got to be a biggie too!!!
These are all true!!!
#10
Whiskers
When a cat loves you, their whiskers stand erect and point towards you as you come close to their face. This happens when they purse their lips, as if to kiss or suckle, esp apparent when they’re kneading you or giving you a head butt.
My rescue kitty, Kirky, is my little love bug! I thought he loved me but after reading this article I now know that he LOVES and trusts me!! My nephews told me about a very sweet orange kitten who used to live in their neighbors house but now had to live outside under an old car. They told me that his name was Kirk. My sister in law was afraid to bring Kirk into their house because she already had a cat and the landlord had said no more animals. I went to check this little kitten out and the poor little guy broke and stole my heart all at the same time. He was very underweight and covered in fleas. Even though he had been kicked out of his house weeks prior he still hung around hoping to one day be let back inside. When I took him some food to try to lure him out from under the car, he came right to me. I thought, as with most strays, I would have to gain his trust but he came right over and hunched down to eat the food. He let me pet him and when he had finished his food he pushed his head into my hands. Like he craved the love and touch. I felt so bad having to put him down to go get some flea meds, more cat food and a carrier but I was back quickly and scooped him up with little trouble. I brought Kirky home despite protests to the car ride and began the slow process of getting him healthy and introducing him to my senior dog Oscar, who had never seen a cat before much less had to share his mommy with one! Thankfully after some initial barking and swipes of the paw the two quickly became buddies! Sharing not only a mommy but her bed! They even curled up together in Oscar’s bed! Kirky is happy and healthy (okay maybe a little overweight but not too much)! He gives me head bumps, cheek rubs, slow blinks, snuggles, follows me everywhere (does anyone else’s cat watch them while they are in the shower?!?!😳), brings me dead lizards (🤢) and even “asks” for belly rubs!! Something he learned from Oscar before he passed away! Like Oscar used to, Kirky walks towards me, circles once and then flops to his side and then rolls onto his back stretching! He will lay there until I rub his belly and he quite enjoys it! Another thing he learned from Oscar is how enjoyable walks can be! When I get my sneakers on and ask “who wants to go for a walk?” Kirky runs to Oscar’s old stroller and hops inside! I’m still working on training my new rescue dog, Lucy, what “walk” means but Kirky has it down! 😂 He loves going out for a walk and in his little stroller even feels confident to hold his ground when other dogs start sniffing! Not sure if it’s the mesh “lid” that makes him feel protected or his Mommy but I’m just happy my poor little street kitty feels loved, safe, happy and protected! 😊
Hey Lisa I use to have a cat name Tilly she was black and white very smart and you know what she would sleep next to who ever she could we do not know what happened to her one day after school she disappeared after refusing to come in the house for my sister and I
I have 10 cats & kittens they all show me love by all the actions mentioned… Love my fur babies
ALL 16 OF MY KITTIES DO ALL THESE THINGS! MY GIRL ZIPPY…..A DARK TORTIE, BURROWS UNDER MY BLANKIES EVERY NIGHT!
I feel totally loved by my two calico girls, Jan and Cindy, because they do all of those things with me❤️
My cat Squirrel stretches her back legs when she walks up to me, sometimes she tries to stretch while walking and nearly falls over, then she wraps herself around my legs. At night she comes and lays on my stomach for a cuddle and loves her lips and scent glands rubbed, the she goes to her spot on the bed and sleeps.
This describes my young 10 month old Taterbug to a T. He is so like this
My cat worships me because I worship her.
We have 6 cats, they all like to sit with us but Lissa sleeps either on my pillow cuddled into my cheek or on my shoulder. She likes to put her paw on my face if I sigh or move.
We have six cats, Samson, Delilah, Ernie, Meenie, Mynie and mo. It is impossible to get anything done. They all have to be everywhere I am. They take turns sleeping on me, beside me ( holding their paws), and all around me. Everyone of them talks to me to let me know what they want. It really is like having six babies, but I Love them all so much!!!🐱🐈
My 5 mo old has taken to cuddling under my arm or sleeping on my head during the night. This morning she was startled by the alarm on my phone and gripped my eyelid and nose as she jumped off. She is such a sweet girl, but I do wonder if I should get her front declawed to save my face and body.
Thank you! A very helpful article.
Our 2 cats have shown all of these behaviors at different times. Instinctively the behavior seemed connected to their being content but didn’t know for certain exactly what all of these behaviors meant. I am glad to know this now. Good stuff!
One other behavior that my one cat will extend is to walk up and position her hind feet on the top of my foot.
Is this included in the claiming my human category?