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How to Grieve the Loss of a Cat

Coping with the passing of a beloved pet

Sadly if you are wondering how to grieve the loss of a cat, this is a must-read for you. Ramona and Petunia. Petunia and Ramona. That’s the way it was for nearly two decades. To say Ramona Reyes and her longhair Calico cat, Petunia, were inseparable was an understatement. Her family and close friends rarely saw one without the other (Ramona had a cat carrier and a leash that allowed her to take her cat everywhere). Petunia was a beloved companion and a constant source of friendship and support in the Jacksonville, Florida, resident’s life. Ramona was just 12 years old when she got Petunia; her cat saw her through her parents’ split, her own marriage and subsequent divorce, a second marriage, a miscarriage, and the birth of her first son.

When Petunia passed away at the age of 19, two years ago, Ramona was inconsolable for weeks. “I knew she was older and had a great life,” said the mother of two, “but when she died, I could literally feel the hole she left in my heart. For a week, I couldn’t eat and could barely sleep. I lost weight and my eyes were swollen shut from crying so much. My partner was willing to do anything to help me and asked if I wanted another cat. But I can’t even imagine doing anything like that anytime soon.”

Ramona isn’t alone. Many cat owners have their pets for more than 15 years, and for a lucky few, closer to 20. Many literally grow up alongside their cats, which have seen them through childhood, school, first jobs, and relationships. You might be thinking that how to grieve the loss of a cat is near impossible at that point when an animal—is more like a family member and a best friend than anything else.

“When a beloved animal dies it can be devastating, overwhelming, and unfathomable,” says Nancy Saxton-Lopez, a New Jersey-based social worker, psychotherapist, speaker, trainer, and coach who has had a private psychotherapy practice with expertise in bereavement, specifically companion animal loss, for 30 years. “The emotions we feel are the same as any loss—but magnified,” she says.

“The human-animal bond is unique,” continues Nancy, who leads a Companion Animal Loss Support Group at St. Hubert’s Giralda, a humane welfare and education organization in Madison, New Jersey, and published The Pet Loss Companion: Healing Advice from Family Therapists Who Lead Pet Loss Groups.

Illustration by Martha Pluto

That connection is also something Steve Moeller, co-founder of the first Grief Recovery Method Support Group over 35 years ago, has witnessed firsthand.

“The only time I ever saw my father cry was after the death of his cat that he loved dearly,” says Steve. “My parents had gotten Tiger after all of us children had graduated and moved away from home. Tiger had bonded with my father and was constantly at his side.”

Tiger died from severe kidney problems. “To say that my father was devastated is an understatement,” says Steve. “My father was a scientist and, by nature, was fairly stoic most of the time, but the death of Tiger took an emotional toll on him such as I had never seen before.” 

The loss can really be a shock, especially if a pet owner had this animal for many years, says Liz Teal (née Eastwood), the author of Soul Comfort for Cat Lovers: Coping Wisdom for Heart and Soul after the Loss of a Beloved Feline and the publisher of “What’s unique about cats we’ve bonded with for years is that they’re an intimate part of our everyday life. Because they’re there every night and day, by the time they pass we’ve often accumulated more time with them than we have with individual friends. Even family members are unlikely to be with you that consistently.”

According to Steve, who is also a certified trainer for The Grief Recovery Institute and a licensed funeral director for more than 40 years, only people who have owned a pet or developed an attachment to an animal can understand the depth of the grief that can come with the death of a beloved cat.

“To put it in the simplest of terms, a pet is that friend that always offers unconditional love and never utters a word of criticism.”

“To put it in the simplest of terms, a pet is that friend that always offers unconditional love and never utters a word of criticism,” says Steve. “They are always there for you in your moments of greatest happiness and overwhelming sadness.”

The connection people have to their cats is one not possible between humans, agrees Nancy. “These pure souls become integrated into the fabric of our lives. Their presents to us include affection, companionship, better physical health, a strong emotional connection—[they] promote social and physical activity, make us laugh, and allow us to take responsibility for another living creature. Pets also soothe us, calm us, and help us live in the moment.” 

Immediately after losing a pet, Nancy likens the feelings to “a big black hole in the soul.”

“The bereaved may feel they have lost part of their body,” says Nancy—just like what Ramona described after the passing of Petunia. “The waves of grief are intense and consistent. There are behavioral, emotional, cognitive, and physical symptoms during the grieving process,” she says.

“Most people never learn how to effectively deal with the grief that they encounter throughout their lives,” says Steve. This starts at an early age, when children are taught to replace the loss, rather than how to process it and move out from under that emotional pain. 

“Perhaps one of the earliest losses most of us experience is when a balloon that we are given comes loose from our hand and floats away,” Steve says. “More often than not, our parents will tell us, ‘Don’t feel bad, we will get you a new one.’ Having them tell us not to feel bad does not make us feel any better, but the message that we unconsciously absorb, as they are drying our tears, is that somehow those feelings of sadness are inappropriate, and there is always a replacement to be found for these things that we love and lose.”

The truth is that you cannot begin to fully form a new relationship until you have effectively grieved and released the emotional pain for that previous relationship that was lost, says Steve, who has mourned several pets of 19-plus years. Using the Grief Recovery Method, he grieves and completes his relationships with each pet that he loses, so that he can build a new and better relationship with each new pet that he might choose to adopt. “We are not replacing a pet, but rather bringing a new and different pet into our home to be loved and cherished.”

According to Liz, we are letting our cats into our hearts more than in the past, and feeling more responsible for them, which makes the loss even harder. Steve says pets have moved from playing a working role in our lives, when people lived on farms and in rural settings, to a more familial role. People are also attaching to their animals more, seeing them as family members and even children. Veterinary medicine has also allowed us to provide better care and medical support for our cats, which brings us even closer to them. “The longer the time spent in any relationship, the deeper that relationship becomes, which translates to a deeper sense of grief,” Steve says.

The grieving process takes a period of time, during which it is important to try to take care of yourself, Nancy says. “This isn’t easy to do as you may have problems eating (not eating, or eating the wrong foods), sleeping (too much or too little), and there is no motivation to exercise. Try to put one foot in front of the other and keep going, but allow your feelings to be. Some people find solace in doing something creative, changing their routine, and being in nature. Sometimes planning a ritual for your beloved cat is helpful.”

It is important to share grief with those who can understand and lend support through this process. “Many times, people mean well but say the wrong things,” Sandra says. “Remember to be gentle with yourself; this is a fragile time for you. The grieving will lessen over time; it is a hard transition from being able to hug and kiss your cat to having him or her eternally in your heart. If you feel the need, you certainly can reach out to a pet loss or grief counselor.”

The services of pet grief counselors and pet loss support groups are becoming more commonplace to keep up with the demand. “The Grief Recovery Institute added a new book and grief program specifically addressing pet loss,” Steve says. “While we had many pet owners attend our Grief Recovery Method Support Groups in the past, the greater recognition of the emotional pain of pet loss and grief made it only sensible to offer specific programs for this form of grief.”

The death of a fur baby can be further complicated when there are real, human children involved.

Liz recommends against using euphemisms for death, while Sandra says children need to be included and informed with facts. “Depending on the child’s age, he or she may not understand what has happened,” Sandra says. “With younger children, it is important to say that their cat died; that he or she can’t move, eat or hear and will not be getting up and especially that they are not responsible for the death. Older children can be told more; that their cat is very sick and may not have a good quality of life.”

If and when a new pet should be acquired is a very individualized decision, and should only be done after you give your grief some space and time. Bereaved owners should continue to work through their grief even after they adopt a new pet. “The important thing is not to use the new cat as a way to skip the grief,” Liz says. She warns that grief can come up at inconvenient times: “many people will find they need another good cry in a car or bathroom, or on a walking break,” she says.

As Sandra puts it, grief is a journey. “Eventually, the waves are less frequent and not quite as intense. However, there are triggers that at any time can overwhelm someone again.” The important thing, says Liz, is to give sorrow the space to transform and most of all, to trust your way. “You might need to process your feelings with someone you trust, or you might need to go throw stones in a river by yourself. Keep reminding yourself that your grief is love. That means it’s valid and important. And to avoid getting stuck in chronic misery or numbness—the only way through your grief is to feel it.”

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  • Daragh Hourigan

    I took a lot of pictures and videos in the last days, and on the day the vet was coming to the house to put them down. I had some lovely jewelry made – pendants to wear – someone on etsy – very affordable. I let them go for general cremation with a service I found that has a field they scatter them on. I did get their paw prints in plaster. In future, I think I might just do them on paper myself. I still have two cats. I am getting older and I had to consider that I can’t end up in assisted living with too many urns of ashes, paw prints, fur trimmings….

  • Cindy Merrill

    My Ginger passed away 2 weeks ago- my husband was fine with it- he never liked her- Fred, Ginger’s sibling is his favorite cat. My heart is broken and my husband couldn’t care less.

    • Nicole E.

      Hi Cindy,

      We are so sorry for your loss!


  • Tiffany

    Hi Wendy,

    I’m so sorry for your loss of Ginger. The loss is very important to you. Find someone to talk to that can be sensitive about your loss and be supportive.

  • Darlene Campbell

    Cindy, I’m so sorry you have lost your dear friend Ginger and that you feel you are grieving alone. You obviously had a special bond that your husband did not share, but many of us understand and share the pain of your loss.

  • Anna Estes

    I lost my beautiful 6 years old cat Sandy several months ago. He had lymphoma and died within 2 weeks of discovering his illness. I was and still in shock and devastated. After 3 months of grieving I was ready to look for another shelter kitty that needed a home and I felt like I can provide. She is lovely. She will not replace Sandy, but eases my pain knowing that another little life is safe and happy.
    I am thankful for my family and friends that no one said “it was just a cat”, get over it.

  • Mary

    I have lost 13 kitties (on top of thr miscarriage of my twins and death of my mother in law) in the span of a month. We might lose two or more as well… My kitties are the only reason I keep fighting the want to die but I am now losing them as well. I can not take it anymore… Too much pain and too much death.

  • Wanda

    I lost my sweet little Bo 6-26-19. Lost his brother My sweet little Oreo on Thursday 6-11-20. My heart is so broken. I can’t seem to find a way to smile again I miss them so very much

  • Sherrie

    My baby, Woodland, was 19 years old and my husband found him in our woods as a kitten. He wasn’t totally weened yet as I would put him on my shoulder and he would suck on my ear. He was diabetic for 11 years and went into remission but then developed hyperthyroidism and kidney issues and got so weak he could barely stand. He died June 13, 2020. I feel like I have lost a part of myself and miss him so much.

  • Didi Sindelar

    I just lost my beautiful Oreo Saturday. We had decided on today being the day we took her to the vet..but Sat..while gone for only a couple of hours..and a friend who was staying with her just finished spoon feeding her and had gone to wash the that one minute of not watching her..(we haven’t slept in weeks) and keeping her from touching her tumor..she rubbed it in just the right way where her eye tumor exploded! I feel sooo extremely guilty for having my kitty experience that without me being there.
    .as well as my friend who INSISTED on helping me out.. was there to witness such a horrific sight. Oreo was in great spirits..still plying with string and toys and using her scratching post..and going up and down stairs until just that day..even tho the tumor continued to grow. I miss my baby SOOOOOO MUCH!!!

  • Stephen Weiss

    We Lost our Casey cat. She was with us 24-7 when we were in the living room. She was exactly 14 yoa. Born in July of 06 and Died in July of 20. from Lymphoma.
    Casey had a rough start, she was found as a 3 month kitten with her 3 sibling who were dead. She was found by my wife’s brother. They were all thrown out by a trash dumpster. It took Mike several weeks for Casey to come to him as he toyed her with a shoe string and cat food. She grew to love Mike. Shortly after we got Casey we were having a roof put on our home. the noise scared Casey so much she hid to where we could not find her. Mike came to our home and within seconds after Casey heard his voice she came out. After that it took my wife several weeks for her to get Casey to come to her. She used the same method as Mike and it did work. Casey went from a really feeble cat to on of the most affectionate cats who seemed to love everone I have ever owned. After a while as I said she stayed near us whenever she could. I am saddest as I was unable to see Casey before she passed due to Covid 19. Nobody but the help was allowed in the building. She was on pain medicine and a feeding tube. I only hope she never thought we disserted her. I can not think of the last time I was this sad. I really Loved Casey and I miss her deeply. This greaving really sucks.

  • Jessica McVicker

    My Abigail was just diagnosed with throat cancer after taking her to the vet 4 times within the last month and being told over and over again she was fine. Now she’s dying and I can’t even process this. I am forever broken! how will I go on without my Abigail!?

  • Karrie

    I lost my Alvin yesterday. He was 15 1/2 yrs. He’s been by my side since he was 4 days old. He was orphaned and I hand reared him. I bonded with him during those early bottle feeds. He was there, when my kids came home for the first time. He was there through my mental health struggles, he was always by my side. No matter my day, he was waiting for me, his love was strong, he was my best friend and I was his. Suddenly he is no longer here. The grief is almost unbearable. I dont know how function. Every room in my house, every action, every memory is so painful. I didnt get to say goodbye.

  • Lorie

    I just put my beloved cat Smokey down after 15 yrs together. It was the worst day of my life and the pain is so intense. Reading all the comments about the deep love and affection for their beautiful animals is helpful. I never imagined a life without her in it nor could i have imagined a bond and love so profound. Rest in peace my darling girl, rest in peace.

  • Lorie

    Karrie, i feel exactly the same way and I extrnd my deepest sympathy to you and to all the amazing ppl who have lost their beloved cats. It does feel on day 2. my thoughts are with you.

  • Bill Poole

    A few years ago we gave food and shelter to a neglected stray cat from neighbors down the street. He turned up more and more for food, love,shelter and affection and got into our hearts. I was with him when he passed away this past weekend (August 08/20). I know he is at peace but there is a empty void in my heart and a feeling that I could of done more. I know this will heal but he will remain a part of my soul forever. Bill

  • Lorie A Schoeberle

    I lost my black cat Baze(yes, he was named after a character in Rogue One). I adopted him from a local shelter and took him to a vet for a check up and he tested positive for fiv. He was with me for 3 years and I loved him. After the vet told me he was positive for fiv and we talked about it, she did a dental cleaning on him. Recently he had been not eating as much, started drinking alot, urinating outside of the litter box, his left eye didn’t look right either. I am totally grieving and crying alot, I called in sick from work today. I am blaming myself for it, I should seen things better and took him for more vet checks with the fiv. In the end the vet said he was losing sight in both eyes, maybe was diabetic, and or kidney failure in addition to the fiv which will accelerate conditions. She agreed with my decision that it was time. He was a awesome cat, he had a little scar on his nose and I thought that he was a grizzled warrior just like Baze in Rogue One. I know that he’s in heaven with my other cat Darth, my horse, my Mom and my husband. I know I got to get through this, but I will look for another cat to save when its time.

  • David

    We lost our Freya last Thursday night. She was 16. Nearly four years ago she was diagnosed with diabetes. My spouse, whom Freya loved with all her heart, was meticulous in caring for her. I helped, of course, but they made a heroic effort to give her as long and happy a life as possible. She couldn’t get around that well in her last days, but she was happy to be with us and showed us her love. Now our job is finished. For so long we had structured our days around her care, including insulin shots every 12 hours. I told my spouse they did everything perfectly, and gave Freya as long and and happy a life as she could ever expect to have. But of course it leaves a hole in our hearts and in our lives. It’s really hard. On top of that her brother is still with us, and he has never known a time without his litter mate. I can’t tell if he’s ok or not. But it fills me with great sorrow that he lost a lifetime companion.

  • Ezzy

    My cat, his name is Loki. He came home yesterday 10am bleeding from is eyes, nose, and mouth. I opened my back door to go outside, then I see him in front of me. I screamed and called my mom on the phone while I let him inside. I spent his last 12 hours with him. Telling him everything was going go be ok. His nose was broken and is jaw was fractured. We had no money. So we took him to the vet and they put him down. He was only 2 years old, I only had him for one year. I miss him so much. R.I.P

  • Alisa Steady

    We lost our lovely Orange boy 8/30/20. I knew and loved him for 16 years. My husband and I are heartbroken. He cried for one day. I, however, am crying days on end. Today is day 5 without our beloved sweet boy in our lives. I am shattered. Loss of a fur baby is real, and as emotional as loss of a human companion. I know it will get better. But for right now, I’m sitting with the heaviest sadness I have ever known.

  • Carly

    I made the terrible decision to put my cat down this week. I’m 35 weeks pregnant, my husband was out of town, and I’ve had this cat for 16 years – half of my life. Last year, at her checkup, we were told she was amazingly healthy for a girl of her age. A week ago, I took her in for an exam because she started urinating outside the litter box. They said there was a chance of advancing kidney issues (which where in very early stages at her annual the year prior – we were advised to switch to a kidney supporting diet, which we did) and suppported an antibiotic shot, pain meds, and a watch and wait approach. Tequi immedietely stopped outside-the-box urination and seemed perky and happy (eating, snuggling, making happy kitty noises). We were so happy to report to the vet how well she was doing! Then the sudden turn. I took one look at her sad, frail body and dilated eyes and knew something very big had shifted. I took her back to the vet and was told her kidneys were failing and her liver wasn’t far behind. Treatment would be short-term (days to weeks was the guess) and there would be no making her comfortable. All alone and in tears that were soaking my Covid mask, I made the decision to say goodbye. It was the worst moment of my life. This kitty, who had given me non-stop love for her entire life, who just days ago had shown huge improvement, is now gone. My brain unconsciously seeks her everywhere – I constantly think I see or hear her before my logical brain catches up and reminds me that I never will again. I know my grief is a representation of my love for her, but she was the best little friend I could have asked for and I can’t imagine life without her. It’s so hard.

  • Kieran

    We had two cats called Zeus and Artemis, brother and sister. Last night we went out to call our two cats in and found Zeus completely motionless just outside our front door. He was already gone by this point. What I’m struggling with is that he was only 1 year and 4 months old and that I didn’t get long enough with him. In such a short time he had become such a big part of me, he was my little man. Both cats had a great personality and did everything together and now Artemis sits there looking out for Zeus much like I find myself doing. A big part of me died yesterday and I don’t know how I’m going to continue to function anymore.

  • Ashley

    I picked my cat before I met him. A friends mom was at a farm and had told me about this “beautiful grey and white kitten” and before I knew it, I was asking if I could take him home. Sox was apart of my life for 16yrs years. He was with me through every single happy moment and through the darkest of times. He saved my life more times then he’ll ever know, just by being there for me when no one else was. In June he was diagnosed with 3 different terminal illnesses and I knew no matter what we did, it would only prolong the inevitable. We did try some treatments but Sox just wasn’t his happy go lucky self anymore and so 3 days ago I made the hardest decision of my life. No words will ever be able to describe the pain I feel and right now I don’t have much for the future. Every time I close my eyes I see his beautiful face and I cry like my hearts being ripped from my chest. Everyone says in time it will be ok, but right now, I just don’t see that.

  • Joanne

    I lost my beautiful angel Sandy yesterday. She had oral cancer with a poor prognosis. She had the most beautiful personality and nature. My heart is a black hole. Thank you to everyone who comments here this is a huge help and comfort to me to read your stories.

  • Brian

    I lost my beloved Willis on 9/14. I am beyond gutted. We brought him home on 7/22/2005, there was a lady who had many kittens, and we decided we’d take the first one who came up to us. It happened to be a 9 week old tuxedo. He seemed so happy to be going home with us, and that first night, when we got into bed, he grappled up the comforter, got right between my then girlfriend (now wife) and I, curled up, and purred. He purred all night. He woke me up the next morning at about 5 AM, purring and headbutting my goatee. He slept with us every night since. He became my shadow from that point on. He followed me everywhere, he wanted to be next to me, or on me. It was rare that we weren’t in the same room if I was home, if I was out back, he was at the back door, if I was out front, he was at the front door or the window waiting for me. He was my best friend. He saw me through so much, so many milestones, good times, bad times, the in between… He always kept me company, one me, next to me, in the same room, he always wanted love and attention and knew just how to get it. I could tell he truly appreciated my company and affection. I can’t even describe how lonely I am now, how empty the house feels, how empty I feel.

    He was a big personality, every waking moment I was in this house, he was by my side. Now, I have to walk alone. I miss you so much baby boy <3.

  • Nicola annakie

    Thank to all of you who have shared your stories here. My heart is with you all as i know the pain you feel. ❤️

    I lost my beautiful boy on Wednesday 16/09/2020. He was 11 years old. I still don’t know how or why he died. I took him to the vet the day before because he had a swollen tummy, had lost loads of weight and had diarrhoea. They said without tests they wouldn’t be able to tell. I couldn’t afford it and the vets that provide reduced pet care were closed because of this covid situation and the nearest one that did was over 40 mins away and they were fully booked up for weeks, and i dont drive or have any family who could help me. I took my boy home so frantic with worry he was still eating and purring before i went to bed.. i wish i never went to bed….i left him downstairs with my son to keep an eye on him but my son went to bed late and I woke the next morning and he was laying on the carpet front legs out at each side. I grabbed him and put him in his bed and covered him with a warm blanket. He held on for three hours then passed away. My heart is broken. I can’t eat, can’t sleep, constantly cry and ask him to forgive me. He was so loved. I miss him so much. Every part of my house reminds me of him. I am devastated that i will have to go on without him. I miss his beautiful green eyes staring up at me. I miss my boy so much. 💔

  • Laura

    Our cat passed away on August 29th this year, it’s been almost 5 weeks & we’re still crying daily. I know time heals all wounds, I’m just wondering how long it will take for the pain to lessen. We ordered paw prints that came in today. It was really hard going back to the vets office to pick up the ceramic cast of his paw prints. To go back to the last place he was alive, the memory of him lying there on the exam table taking his last breaths was so new & raw. The one thing I’m grateful for is that my daughter didn’t have to see that. She’s had him for 12 years. He was born here when she was 6 years old, she named him so it’s a good thing she can remember him as the strong, (kinda fat) amazing cat he was. He got out one day when it was really hot & the doors were open & was attacked by 5 raccoons. My dad & I managed to save him from the raccoons but when he was taken to the vet, they didn’t do any kind of scan, so, they missed the internal bleeding & 3 days later, he died from it. It was one of, if not the most, horrific & painful experience of my 36 year life. I wish I could talk to someone about it, but I just don’t know many people & I can’t talk to my daughter or mother about it because it’s just as hard for them as it is for me & I don’t want to make it worse for them. Anyway, I just thought I’d share. Thank you for reading this if you did.

  • Sharon Farmer Hendrickson

    I had my sweet girl Fluffy White Frosting put to sleep yesterday. She is still everywhere, always right behind me, laying on the bed beside me in my home office, or on my desk between me and work. I cannot stop thinking I hear her meow or her little claws tapping on the floor or expecting her when I open the a door or go into another room. She was 21 years old. I had her mother, so I’ve known her since the moment she was born. She had long, white hair, had one blue eye, one green eye, and was born deaf.
    Her health had been failing the last year or two. She weighed only about 4.5 lbs and was so skinny and frail and her vision was failing. 🙁 She was my sweet baby though, and she had helped me through so many tough times.
    Yesterday morning, she wasn’t in her usual spot on the corner of the desk, ready for her 8AM feeding (I fed her wet food 4 times daily since she had a hard time eating dry food and had lost so much weight). I found her sitting in the living room and new something was wrong. She could hardly walk.
    I didn’t have tests on her because the vet said it wasn’t “just inner ear” issues. I know it was her kidneys or liver failing her 🙁
    I have been with her almost 24/7 for the last 8 months, due to COVID-19. I am so happy I got to spend that much time with her.
    Now, I am hurting so much. It is so hard 🙁 I know it takes time, but I don’t want to go through the pain. At least she is no longer hungry every 2 hours or in pain or fear.

  • Matt

    I lost my cat Cleo yesterday Monday 27th September 2020 after finding out a post on Facebook of a black cat found in the grass right next to out house in the lane, praying it wasn’t her but the phone call came n said we have tour cat here,my heart dropped.the reception lady said she looked Ok(natural death,curling up in a ball to die etc) u can come see her so we did only to find out she was not ok to see and clearly been hit by a car or something like that as her jaw was broke blood over her etc we were beyond devastated as she was only 10 and a bit years old slim, healthy And very active!!!

    She would always be very careful around anything like that running away etc,so I just can’t figure out how it happened.she would always prefer me my tells me and was my cat.i loved her very much spent a lot of time with her rubbing her belly bunting me playing only to have some person hit her and run away.i think that’s what makes it so bad for me knowing she had many a good year left.i don’t ever cry much but this feels like when my dad passed 2 years ago all over again I’ve lost a friend and companion to early, the house feels empty now at times and I keep getting set off by things we did in the house etc I’m so gutted and devastated she didn’t deserve it as the other people say I have another black hole in my heart to go along with my other one from my dad!!

  • Patricia Carpenter

    My baby calico aged 10 has just died from heart failure. I can’t stand this pain.

  • Lynne Runcorn

    I have just lost my Fizzy, we had to let her go, we had her for 7 years and she was about 11, she was diagnosed 4 years ago with a heart illness, hcm, but Sunday she was having trouble breathing, the vet did his best but it was time for her to go over the rainbow bridge, and we got to say our goodbyes despite covid restrictions, I am so upset and my heart is broken, i miss my sweetie girl, rip darling till we meet again- mummy xxxxx

  • Cathie

    Patricia, I just lost my beloved Jackson who was only 8 years old to heart failure. My heart also hurts so much right now, I cannot stop thinking about him, he was such a beautiful, calm and affectionate cat. The vet had me hold him while she injection the serum to put him down while I talked to him. I don’t think I will ever forget that night.

  • Carol Tingle

    Thank you for this article. My beloved Olivia died last Friday from Cushings Disease, diabetes and kidney disease.

  • Claude Frankish

    I sadly had to put my cat Murfield (Spliced name made from Merlin and Garfield) to sleep last week due to severe kidney issues and he was really slowing down. He fought to be 15 years old and I still remember adopting him when I was 7. He helped me and my mum through some terrible times but still gave us so much love. I remember him greeting me at the door every day when I came home from school/college, cuddling up with me at night as I watched my favourite shows, giving me kisses when I was sad and comforting my mum when she was in pain due to her developing MS 11 years ago. He really was the best cat anyone could ask for. I’m going to miss him very dearly because he was a huge part of my life growing up to be a young adult but I know that he’s not in pain anymore. I hope he’s watching me from the cat sanctuary in the sky knowing that his human is still living and doing his best. Once I’ve grieved properly I’m considering adopting another cat in his memory. They can never replace the bond I had with Murfield but I know that I will love whoever I adopt as much as I loved him. I’ve even made a special gothic collar with one of his bells from his collar on it so he’s always with me when I’m out and about

  • Christine ALLAN

    Thank you all for sharing your stories. My Donny got hit by a car in front of my house in Febuary. e was only 2. I still miss him. I am going to create a piece of art to commemorate all these beautiful fur babies.

  • Jehan

    I lost my beloved 10 years old cat Tutti on 11 sep 2020 i’ve had him since he was 2 months old. He was fine he had diarrhea we went to the vet and they said he’ll be fine, after 2 days he started to breathe fast, went to the vet again, he had water on the lungs from severe heart and kidney failure, they removed the water hoping he’ll get better but after 3 days he passed away. He left so early i didn’t think he’ll leave so soon, My heart is broken he’s my baby boy, I miss him so much, although i have other pets but the house is so empty without him he’s my special baby and i just can’t live without him, it’s more than a month now but the pain is still the same and i miss him more and more. I don’t know what to do with my life anymore it hurts so much and i love him so much.

  • Catherine Lee

    My heart truly goes out to every single soul who’s shared their story here. My kitten, Fettuccine was euthanized last night and he died in my arms last night. He was my boyfriend and my first pet. We were so excited to meet him and when he arrived, he was so curious and affectionate. He loved us right away. He didn’t run to hide when he first arrived in our house. He was so openly curious and checked out our condo and always wanted to go into places he wasn’t allowed in (aka our bed room). He was a total lap cat — he would nap on my lap while I did my homework and his favourite thing in the world was to be touched — whether that was holding him in my arms, giving him belly rubs, or petting him on my lap. We got him only six days ago but it feels much longer than that. I’ve never loved anyone this much before. In the 5 days we had him, he developed FIP which is a fetal disease for kittens. His health deteriorated so rapidly. We sent him to the ER on Sunday when he started having trouble breathing. We thought it was just congestion from a flu and the vet could fix him right up. We emitted him for 24 hrs because the doctor was concerned about some fluid in his belly and wanted to run additional tests. That night we received a call that broke us. We tried to remain positive and the next day, we decided to take him home just to see how he would do with his loving parents. When he came home, he could barely walk — he tripped and stumbled over, even fall off the cushion we placed him on to nap. He was meowing in pain and we could see it hurt him to breath, and his belly was super swollen. He was in so much pain– he wanted to hide and kept going into the litter box and just sitting there. Eventually we put him in a box and closed the flaps slightly to give him some privacy. My boyfriend and I took him back to the ER after two hours so he could get some oxygen to help him breath. In three more hours after some more additional tests were run and the doctor told us his prognosis was poor, we made the heartbreaking decision to put him down. Mommy loves you so much baby boy <3 It hurts to no longer be able to hear you meow, see you walk over to greet me in the morning, or wake up in the middle of the night seeing you turn your little guy. I hope you know just how much i love you and miss you.

  • Dawn

    I lost my beloved Basil almost two months ago to kidney failure related to HCM. He was a miracle with a world class cardiology care team. I am so grateful for the 3 plus years I got with him after being told he may only live a few weeks. I was so grateful for each day and each second and each hug. But I’m still completely and utterly devastated. I’ve never experienced loss and it is unimaginable. I can’t see myself coming out the other side of this pain – it seems unrelenting. I just want my sweet Basil back.

  • Dan

    Tonight, I said good-bye to my wonderful friend “Kramer”. May he finally find the rest I so wanted to give him, free from the pain of disease. Kramer was a wonderful cat. He was a friend, a companion and protector to my kids at a time when I wasn’t there for them consistently. He always liked being with us, just not on “top” of us for he was not a lap cat. Just the same, he was full of love and was spoiled to no end. Over the years he battled several issues including diabetes which he had recently beaten (it went into remission), but unfortunately, he lost another battle with something we could not control, and in the end, despite all my efforts and patient vets, I decided he did not need to suffer any more.

    A few weeks ago he had developed a case of constipation. Over and over again, we took him to our vets who were very patient and tried a number of procedures. Each time Kramer came home he was a new cat but within a few days he would be back where we started. Each time, he would hit a new low breaking my heart. Today I decided he had suffered enough and after seeing him bleeding and swollen in his rear, I made the excruciating decision to put him down. My daughter and I spent the last few minutes with him as I fed him his fav treats and settled in to hold him through his final minutes. The vet administered a sedative which relaxed him and then administered a dose to let him go. His body sank into the table and just like that, his spirit left him to rest and wait for us to join him one day.

    Thank you Kramer for almost 13 years of your warmth and love. I was so blessed to have been with him his last 6 months – i brought him home those 13 years ago and to be with him before he returned to his celestial home. We will never forget you! ‘Till we meet again!

  • Tamara Conner

    I’m Tamara, and I had my cat Pounced for 19 years. Pounced and I just moved out to the country and she would come out side with me and on Friday morning 11-7-2020 a stray dog came in to the yard and took off after her I have not been able to find her .I do not know if the dog got her or not..but in 19 years she has never been out side at night she has always been with me in my bed. And I’m having a awful time getting through this..I’m so heart broken. I miss her so much.

  • jaja

    I too lost a beloved pet. I had Dolce for just 2 months. She was a kitten who was abandoned so I took her in. I had her vaccinated but unfortunately Feline Parvovirus has already took hold and she wasn’t able to recover. I was not with her on her final moments as I admitted her to the animal hospital for treatment since she was not eating and needed IV fluids. I still remember our last goodbye as I touched her small head telling her to recover so I can bring her home fast. I did not have her for long but the void she left felt heavy in my heart still. Hope she’s at the rainbow bridge & happy. And if there is an animal reincarnation hope she finds me again so we can stay together far longer.

  • Megan Marshall

    I lost my kitty Lily yesterday. She was only 2 and a half years old and got hit by a car right outside my house. I am hurting so badly that it’s hard to bear it. I felt like her mother the way she followed me into every room I entered, and slept in my bed with me every single night. I miss her waking me up nuzzling my face and purring before falling asleep on my neck. I miss her laying in the sink while I showered and waited there for me to finish. I miss her soft fur on my skin when I held her and giving her kisses on her little head. I could feel how much she loved me. I’m in so much agony.

  • Rosie

    Thank you all for your wonderful, loving comments that have been a great comfort to me, in knowing that I’m not alone. I’ve sent a little kiss up to the sky for each and every one of your lost fluffy ones.

    Over the years, I’ve lost five beautiful kitty cats:
    Smartie – 5 years – hit by car
    Sammy – 9 years – hit by car
    Pringle – 6 months – mouth/throat disease
    Shadow – 11 years – spinal disease
    Pippy – 11 years – stroke

    They were ALL beautiful, loving, and such individuals! The pain I feel for each of them will NEVER go away.

    After Pippy died, we adopted Mollie. She was 4 years old, and had been horribly abused in that time. It took her some time, but she warmed to us all, and now, after 8 years with her, I can’t imagine life without her. I got a devastating diagnosis myself just before she came to us – I was 23 and became bed-bound – I always will be. Mollie was a MASSIVE part in helping me come to terms with so much.

    All our fluffy ones died suddenly (even where they had illnesses, they were living happy lives until things suddenly stopped), so I’m experiencing something totally new now – I found out this morning that Mollie has cancer and nothing can be done. I’ve never known ahead of time before. We’re going to do everything we can to make whatever time she has left as wonderful and pain-free as possible. I’m so worried that I’m going to stress her because I can’t stop crying whenever I see her, knowing that she’s going to be ripped away from me too soon.

    Our relationships with animals are so pure – they don’t judge. They don’t criticise. We are always enough. That’s why it can be so impossibly difficult with a pet, and sometimes more painful than losing an actual human. Our animals just love unconditionally.

    I wish all of you so much love. It’s so painful. But time DOES heal – I promise – and eventually you’ll remember with smiles instead of tears.

    I don’t know whether Mollie will still be here or not when you read this… but it would mean a lot to me if you could just send a little kiss up to the sky for her either way, should you read this! She is a special girl.

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  • Nicholas Rose

    We just lost our little girl Ali after 11 years together. She was my wife’s (then girlfriend) cat that she adopted when Ali was around 1 year old. She didn’t like me at first, taking her momma away. After we moved in together, Ali started to gravitate towards me more. She became my furry shadow, loving my cuddles and touch. She would wait for me by the door to come home from work at night and be there first thing in the morning when my alarm went off. About a year and a half ago, she was diagnosed with diabetes. We gave her insulin shots but her numbers never got any better. Last Friday, she stopped eating and drinking and started hiding. We took her to emergency and were told her vitals were low. They said there wouldn’t be much hope for recovery so we made the difficult decision to put her to sleep. I can’t believe how much I miss her and wish I would have been there when we had to put her down, since we couldn’t be in with her due to covid. I just hope wherever she is, Shes comfortable and I may see her once again.

  • JT

    The picture with the cat spirit comforting their best friend is me right now, except I can’t find any comfort. It is agonizing to have said goodbye to my baby yesterday. I am simply crushed. The house house feels as empty as my soul. Until we meet again, my baby Jane.

  • Izzy_Fleur

    To all those who lost their little furry friends. The pain and grief is deep and yes it hurts so much. I cannot stop crying right now. My beautiful pedigree Angora called Mimi-Belle was hit by a car yesterday at 2pm and no he didn’t stop. My neighbour John knocked on the door and he had her limp and bloodied body in his arms, saying ‘ Mimi’s just been hit by a car’. I immediately started crying and screaming and grabbed for the car keys whilst my husband took her in his arms and placed her in the carrier, laying her upon a towel and removing and leaving the lid open so we could see her. Her blood was dripping everywhere in the hallway on the light-coloured flooring and staining tge towel, I was shaking with shock and filled with dread knowing the odds were not really looking hopeful. We rushed her to the local vets midst traffic and obstacles on the road. She lay lifeless and her eyes wide open and glazed. ‘ She’s gone..she’s gone…she’s dead’ I said. My husband inisted she was still warm and possibly alive…he was not looking down and seeing what I was seeing, that the light had gone from her eyes. We parked up and rushed her in, they took her off us straight away whilst telling us to wait….then one of the veterinary nurses came out to confirm what I already knew. She is gone and what a beautiful cat she is/was. They said they will clean her up and prepare her so we can say our final farewells. They called us into a small room in the front of the surgery and she was wrapped in a yellow woollen baby blanket. Mimi’s fur was like the colour of the beautiful sands of the Maldives and her eyes green like the oceans, so deep and full of life and vibrant. She was a super intelligent, agile and breathtakingly beautiful cat who gave the best cat kisses and had the softest fur like silk. She was truly a unique and magical cat. A once in a lifetime type of cat. Everyone knows each cat is unique with his or her own traits and personalities and we all know you cannot find another that is quite the same as your own cat baby. Irreplaceable? Perhaps. Yet there she lay lifeless and limp and I could not believe a cat so full of life spirit and energy was an empty shell bearing wounds of a horrific collision and internal injuries. ‘Bye bye, my beautiful baby girl…I stroked her head gently….whilst crying with devastation and falling into my husband’s arms, tears streaming down my face. The nurse relayed her own experience of losing a cat. She confirmed Mimi was 12 years and 2 months (DOB 29/09/2008). 2008-2020 RIP. She had been with me through many difficult times and a stalwart companion. I lost another cat 5 months before of 14 years 10 months who was getting on a bit so it was not such a shock, but Mimi was full of life, playful and active. It seems both cat babies departed in the same year within 5 months of each other. Both left this world in the same year in the same way which is so sad. I have memories of them playing in the garden and on the roof of the garage peering down at me. They were much loved and are much missed. Mimi and Zakk will live on forever in my heart. I will never forget but learn to adjust like I did when my father passed away unexpectedly in 2014. I hope Mimi-Belle and Zakk are now playing in the eternal gardens and at peace and filled with love and light…may all the beloved cat babies play in the eternal gardens and never feel pain….not a day will pass when I will not catch myself having a flashback or looking out to the spots I would see them basque and play among the flowerbeds or sit on the garden bench or front of home greeting us on arrival…pure unconditional love is what they always showed. May we treasure our memories of our furry companions and remind ourselves that we should live each day to the fullest and make the most of this journey we call life. We learn to adjust but we never forget. To all those experiencing pain and loss right now, love and light. May your hearts be unburdened and something beautiful fill the void one day. It shall come to pass and life goes on as hard as it may feel right now. But the world keeps turning and it too will reach its course one day as shall we.

  • Joanne dahl

    I found my cat dead out the front of my home 2 days ago, he was on the road so I picked him up and I could see all the blood on his face and his eyes looked funny but what killed me was his head just flopped on my shoulder. I’m an absolute mess at the moment. It’s like someone has ripped my heart out and thrown it in a grinder. I feel responsible for his death as everyone warned me about the busy Rd I live on but I didn’t listen. Romeo didn’t deserve to die like this and this isn’t how it was to pan out. It almost feels like I’m in a dream but when I focus I realised it’s real and then the sadness and tears kick in. I’m not coping very well, I suppose if I didn’t have to pick him up etc and see that traumatic side I wouldn’t be this bad but I can’t get that pic of him bloodied up on the Rd out of my head. How do I stop that thought. Romeo was my best mate, we had such a unique bond I know no other cat will ever have, sadly . I want answers but I know I’ll never get them how do I deal with these intense emotions especially around Xmas?

  • William Hollis

    my cat Mr Enzo passed close to a month now and I am still sad and crying not racist I’m a black man who normally does not cry, at all, I really really loved my cat, thanks for the support and advice I’m going to find a way to to get through this and blessed a couple of cats that need a home once and if I get through this lonely times.

  • Willie Delgado

    My Mini past away 11/8/2020 after 20 years of love, joy, and companionship. My wife never liked her. Perhaps she may have been a little jealous, I don’t know. But when she passed, she took a big piece of my heart and sole with her. I new I’d be sad, but I didn’t know I’d be this sad. I’m grieving after 2 months. I’ve never grieved so hard and so much in my life.

  • Arthur Edwards

    I have just lost my cat Rossi i am utterly devastated,tears just flow uncontroleby. He was put to sleep yesterday 22/01/2021, cancer lymphona.Guilt remorse my feelings are all over the place. But memories of years together will make my aching heart grow hopefully stronger. Goodnight Rossi.

  • Lynee Welding

    I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your kitties. Your stories are helpful because I don’t feel so alone. My 4 month old kitten, Aurora, passed away yesterday. She was napping in my husbands desk chair and didn’t wake up. I am so heart broken. She was my best friend. She would follow me around and talk to me. We would curl up in bed at night time and she would suckle and purr. Aurora was found on my sister’s farm as a stray and she had a pretty hard start to life. I know that she was with us a brief time but I feel so much pain. I loved her so much and truly enjoyed being her human mom. I will love you forever Aurora. You were as beautiful as your name.

  • Steven

    I just lost my 14 year old cat to an unknown cause. I had brought him to the vet several times once i realized he was acting differently. They said he was diabetic but i knew he was in a different kind of pain. He went from running around outside and eating normally to a week later not being able to stand, vomiting, and not eating. I had to make the decision to put him down. I dont know whats worse. Having to put him down or making him go through intensive care and possible surgeries. I took care of him every single day. My mother brought him in when he was only weeks old, laying outside in the freezing rain. I regret not giving him the chance to fight this issue, although i suspect it was his liver. Im angry at the vet, the doctor, the disease, and myself. I lost my bestfriend and i feel as though no one else around me could ever understand. I miss him so much.

  • Samantha

    I lost my baby boy, Keanu, 3 days ago. His illness came out of nowhere and completely stuck up on me. I did everything I could for him. I tried so hard to save him. Sadly, he died in my arms, on the way to the vet. He was just 4 years old. But the fact that I didn’t have him for 10+ years, did not mean I loved him any less, or his loss hurt any less. I am in a deep, dark, endless depression that I cannot seem to get out of. I buried my boy in my backyard, made a makeshift “tombstone”. Every day, I go down, pick some flowers from my garden, lay them on his grave. I sit with him and cry and beg his forgiveness for failing him. When he died, me and my partner each took a clipping of his hair, whiskers and claws. We will be putting the claws in special made necklaces and we will be getting replica plushies made of Keanu, to put his fur and whiskers in. That way when I go to bed with the plushie, I can have my Noonies back in his rightful place, under my chin, tucked against my chest. And whenever I’m away from my bed, I can have him with me near my heart, in the necklace. I will also be using some of the soil from where he is buried, in a pot, to grow a nice plant. That way, his energy is put to good use. This is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do in my entire life. There are times where I feel I cannot go on without my baby boy. There are times I feel I don’t deserve to go on, because I failed him. Its so hard to remind myself to be strong, for Keanu who is watching over me, and for my cats that are still with me.

  • Amy

    I lost my beloved cat Gingersnap on May 15th, just 4 days before his 14th birthday. He was diagnosed with congestive heart failure a few months ago, but we thought we were managing it well with medication, so it was quite unexpected when he suddenly took a turn for the worse. We tried to get him to the after-hours clinic, but it was too late. He passed away en route. I take a small amount of comfort knowing that I was with him when he came into the world (his mother was a stray who I helped deliver her litter under our deck), and I was with him when he left it. It’s been almost two weeks, and I still don’t feel any better. This is the first time I’ve been without a cat in my life since I was two years old (I’m 34 now). My bond with Gingersnap was very special. He was such a sweetie, and it kills me waking up every morning and not having him there begging for cuddles. I’ve sought advice for getting past this grief, but people just keep suggesting I should get another cat. I can’t even bear thinking about doing that. I just know I’ll never be as close to another animal as I was to Gingersnap, and I don’t even want to try. I would give anything to have him back.

  • Kim Smith

    I had to put my Sammy cat down on Monday (June 14, 2021) due to heard disease. Although I cried while they put him to sleep I bawl and get physically ill when I see the spot we buried him, which is a spot I see every time I walk out my door. I want to take him out of the ground and hold him. Should I have had him cremated? 😢😢

  • Ricky B

    I was Fortunate to have a little grey and white kitty adopt me when she was five weeks old. in June 2007.
    I named her Bonnie Jean. and she and I were constant companions for almost 14 years. she was quiet and behaved, sweet natured and affectionate. a loyal Friend as one could ever hope to have. she saw me through the decline and passing of my mom. she was a comforting pet-friend. she took ill suddenly late January and in 4 days declined rapidly. stopped eating, and stopped urinating. she started to collapse. I took her to the vet and all they could do is put her down. I allowed them to cremate and scatter on a farm. I took a fur clipping the day I took her in and have it in a card with her paw print. that card will be placed in my urn with my ashes. and buried along side my mother. Bonnie is my Final Pet-Friend. I lost mom in 2016 and Bonnie in February. the heartbreak lingers. p.s I used to do a tap dance for her with a dip as the finale. and she approved with a meow.

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